Anxiety

Anxiety, like all other feeling states, has a purpose and function – to alert us to actual or perceived threat. It allows us to be prepared by anticipating such a threat. Imagine being confronted by a bear, and not having the physiological response appropriate to it (ie. rapid heart rate, reactive fear, etc).  We need these responses to either take fight or flight for survival in these circumstances. However, anxiety may be present to “perceived” but not “actual” threat as well. Our bodies and minds respond in the exact same way, to a lesser or greater extent, as to “actual” threats. Worry about money, relationships, being alone, social settings, being a good parent, the health of a loved one, a new baby...can sometimes cause us to experience ongoing anxiety. There is a “perceived” or “imagined” threat - ie. I will not have enough money, I will not be a good enough parent, people will not like me. Our bodies and minds prepare for what we believe may be a negative outcome; so that, at the very least, we are uncomfortable and unable to relax. We may want to “fight”, “flee” or “freeze” from and in these circumstances. Understanding that we are fully and gloriously equipped with survival instincts, that they are intact, combined with not making “anxiety” bad or wrong; is the greatest step in understanding and accepting this feeling state. The next step is taking action. Examples could be: talking to someone you trust, physical activity to use up the stored and charged energy, meditation, yoga, tai chi, or talking to your doctor or therapist. Self management and self care further adds to your self worth and overall well being.

If you would like my help managing your anxiety, or learning tips on self-management and care, I am available to support you at convenient hours during the day and evenings.

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