LILLIAN BENRUBI PSYCHOTHERAPY MSW, RSW |
“What a wonderful time this is!!!!” Crazy??? Perhaps. ![]() While I have no power myself to create the very medicine that would annihilate the Covid19 from existence……what I do have power over…….is making a difference in its spread and longevity. Furthermore, in my day to day life, I have the power to discern between what I expose myself to and surround myself with, that either supports me in CREATING a NEW world, one of MY CHOOSING, or sitting back and being a victim to any existing circumstances. Ahhhhh, this may occur as a harsh message, depending on your interpretation of it, or it may occur as a truth you wish to explore and embrace. And I invite you to consider doing so. Your thoughts, feelings and behaviors can make a huge difference, and perhaps they already are……CHEERS to you if you have found the formula that carries you to the space where you are creating life lasting, connecting relationships, partnerships and impact at this time. BOUNDARIES!! I watched Cable TV last night for the first time in a long time, and could not believe how much of the Covid 19 I was confronted with. Every commercial had something to say. And while I’m a firm believer in “knowledge is power”……sometimes too much can, in fact, contribute to a sense of powerlessness. I paid attention to my body and its response to commercial filled breaks over the course of an enjoyable movie, and if it had an actual voice, it would have said “Enough”!!!! or “Run”!!!! Or perhaps the less civilized part of me would have thrown whatever was closest to me at the TV. My body was agitated,......wanting to push the boundary outward. So, my partner, feeling the same way…..paused the commercials and fast forwarded them to the next segment of the movie. We also don’t listen to the news much…..we pick and choose the media we wish to impact our impressionable minds and hearts, the credible ones that give us a factual measure of what’s happening in the world. As a "Sensitive" of 54 years, I know all too well how my nervous system reacts to UNINVITED and UNWANTED external stimuli. Ive learned from life that I am the gateway to my life experience……the boundaries I put into existence, either protect and nurture the space I wish to live in, or allow trespassers to dump and fester in my front and backyard. CONNECTING!!!! You may have also heard the discussion that this Virus is asking us to connect with what matters to us. What matters to you? Again, your interpretation matters here…..but I bet that when the Covid 19 started to get close to your world…..everything that mattered to you became really FOCUSED on the screen of your life. For some it was employment, for some pregnancy, young children, elderly, their own lives....at one point i became quite saddened for all the people that were passing on from this world. ![]() The pictures (the flowers dropped off by a client, a letter mailed by another) in this email might give you a hint of at least one thing that matters to me…….yes indeed…….Relationships. Not only relationships between me and the people in my life, but the relationship that they have WITH themselves, the relationship that YOU have with yourself. When we respect ourselves, we don’t “take” anything, we “create” everything. The flowers and the card are feedback, feedback to the very things that we choose to do, say and be in this world. Some of this might come naturally, unconsciously……but what if you took on, today, to CONSCIOUSLY look at what you are creating in HOW you are BEING in the world at this time. What have you done that works in the world of having what you want and need? What can you take on as practices or learning that can make a difference in the area of your life that matters to you, but feel powerless to make a difference? Connection plays a huge role in feeling like a being that has the power to make a difference. Who are you connecting to? How often? Are you initiating connection? Are you asking for what you want and need? Or do you assume that your request will be unreasonable, unseen, denied......etc. WHAT WE GIVE OUR ATTENTION!!!! Finally, what we give attention to becomes our reality. There is a lot to choose from in our global community.....if you want peace, tranquility, love, and impact......what are some of the things that you entertain that contribute to this lifestyle? And what are some that shake it up? What can you take your attention away from that might calm your inner and outer world? What can you take your attention to that lights you up, warms your heart, settles your mind.....reminds you that you (and your relationships) matter too? At 5 am this morning, i woke up to the sounds of birds chattering outside my window (and I've been saying for days that I need to secure my window so i don't have to wake up so early). But, in the midst of that lucid state.....I was present to and giving my attention to the people in my life that i love, that bring kindness, generosity and contribution to the world. I became present to how blessed i feel...and this occurred more like a feeling.....to be surrounded by such enormously powerful people that are making a difference in the world. This wasn't always the case for me, i assure you, but through my own work over the years, i get to wake up at 5 am, with a loud and uninvited guest outside my window, but with a warm feeling and a smile on my face. You are hugely powerful. Discover and revel in the magic of what you can create today.....and every day of your beautiful life. Whenever this message finds you, I hope you are well, safe and know that you are always taken care of. With love,
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6/18/2023 10:24:34 am
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